Below is perfect example of why I say that a relationship should start with abstinence and at least one year of getting to know someone without sexual emotional involvement…. Rxxxx, friend of a woman Shxxx ( who has a parallel story actually) had a baby and didn’t know who the father was because she had multiple partners in the same month. Rxxxx meets a guy. She gets pregnant and they have baby. Then they get married and she gets pregnant again and has a third baby. Somewhere in there she discovers that he is a meth addict for 15 years, is unreliable, lies constantly and that his own family has stopped trying to relate to him. Now, just two years after meeting him and two kids later. she has told him don’t return until you do in-house rehab, and she doubts he will fulfill this. I ask, what if our culture said that getting to know one another without sex is the responsible way to behave, and being free and fun is not? Fun and Free Fun is a word unknown in indigenous languages. It usually means indulgent consumerism, but in past, their was dancing, which was for fun. Dancing is not consumerism because one is a participant. Spectator sports and tourism are examples of consumerism and are “fun.” Lets look at our word “free.” Lets remember the Declaration of Independence did not apply to Africans or Native Americans. All [white]…
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